Teaching To Serve and Give

18 11 2008

Admittedly, I am have not been, nor am I a “natural” servant.  In fact, since planting Element God has rocked my world on that whole topic.  It’s definitely something that I’m striving to become.  My wife has the spiritual gift of serving and giving.  In fact sometimes I tell her to STOP serving and giving.  (I know, maybe not the right move)  I do think you can give or serve to a fault IF it begins to injure you ie. time with God, family, meeting your own needs, etc.  But I digress.

One of the things my parents ALWAYS modeled so well was serving and giving.  I never once questioned whether my parents were generous people or committed to giving to the work of God.  I never once questioned my parents concert for the church AND their “neighbor” because they served.  While I didn’t always follow their example, today at 34 years old it makes an impact.  I want to teach our children the same.  So, we give them opportunities to do that.

Jonah helped make Sabrina some cookies and we took them to the local fire department to say “Thank you!”  the other day.  Here are a couple pictures of J Man getting to sit in the fire truck after serving and giving.    img00656

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On Halloween we took our kids trick or treatin’ around our neighborhood.  I was inspired by Curtis and Andy going trick or treating for canned goods for the local soup kitchen.  I took that idea and after our kids asked for candy, we asked for canned goods or non-perishables to take to the local food pantry.

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It was cool for our kids not just to get candy for themselves, but to explain why we were getting food for people in need.  I hope moments like these stick with them when they are 34 and teaching their kids.  I know I need to continue to get better at this and so not only does it teach them, but challenges me!





Proud Daddy

1 11 2008

Tuesday was jersey day at Jonah and Mariahs school.  They had themes each day.  Must have been for Halloween.  I was VERY proud to see they both wanted to wear something OU.  Jonah said “It’s not a jersey but it’s OU.”  YES!





Halloween

31 10 2008

Here are the kids in their costumes.  We’re going to a church alternative party tonight and then gonna turn our porch light on and hand out candy and invite cards to trick or treaters.

Makalah is a cat.

Jaydah is a giraffe.

Mariah is a clown.  The kids in her class on Wednesday during their class party made her try to juggle.  LOL

Jonah wanted to be dracula.  We wouldn’t let him but comprimised on a storm trooper from Star Wars.  He looked pretty cool, and has a light sabre to go with it.





Daddy Night

30 10 2008

Sabrina had a party for her business last night, so it was a daddy night.  Daddy night usually means ordering pizza and getting a movie.  Tonight though we had hot dogs, macaroni and cheese and cookies.  Then we went outside to play some football and is at began getting dark we all gathered on the trampoline to watch the stars come out.  Here are a few pics of our evening.  The kids loved it.





Name Boards

26 10 2008

We had one name added to our name board today and it’s especially significant cause it was added by my son Jonah.  Jonah came running to me and said “Hey Dad!  You know those name board thingies?  I added my friend (name) to it.”  I asked him why and he said “Because he doesn’t love God or go to church anywhere.”  I gave Jonah a hug and told him how proud I was for him to do that.  At our evevning family devotion time tonight Jonah prayed an awesome prayer for his friend.  It was very cool.





Teatherball Champion

19 09 2008

Wednesday morning Jonah about went into panic mode when he couldn’t find his glove.  NOT gloves (plural) but A glove.  It wasn’t cold.  In fact it was going to be in the 70’s.  I said “What do you need a glove for?”  He said “Teatherball”.  Teatherball?  Yeah, apparently you can hit the ball a LOT harder and DOMINATE the playground with a glove for your hitting hand.  He takes it out of his backpack each recess so he can play.  Umm, I think he got Sabrina’s competitiveness.  I know I’m not like that.

Dominate,

Jeff






Caught not Taught

18 09 2008

I can tell my kids what I want them to do till I’m blue in the face and they may not do it.  If I show them what I want them to do they are MUCH more likely to do it.  I truly think that the shaping of our kids’ lives is WAY more caught than taught.  If I want them to pray, they need to see me pray.  If I want them in the Word, they need to see me in the Word.  If I want them to be polite, generous, kind…you get the picture.  Well, the other day I had a caught moment.  Through living out some random acts of kindness we challenge Element Church to do, Makalah wanted to do one of her own.  The other day she asked if we could take cookies to the fire department.  SO, while I was at work Sabrina and her made a big batch of chocoloate chip cookies.  I came home from the office a little early and Makalah, Mariah and I delivered them to the firehouse.  The girls were SO proud and the firemen were VERY accomodating.  I was a very proud dad that day and they can’t wait to do it again.  Here are the pictures of the girls sitting in the front seat of the fire truck after they got the tour of the facility and machines.  Remember, life is more caught than taught.

Throwing,

Jeff





Makalah’s First Day

12 09 2008

Last week our third child started school.  Pre-school that is.  Jonah (7) is now in first grade.  Mariah (5) is in Kindergarten.  And Makalah (4) started pre-school.  It’s gotta be weird for Sabrina to have just one child at home three mornings a week while Makalah is at pre-school.  On the first day of Kindergarten Mariah saw Sabrina across the street and as she was running to her was yelling “THIS IS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE!”  Ummm, let’s just say her love for school did NOT come from me.

Jonah’s main comment about school “I wish Mariah had a different recess.  I can’t stand her chasing me and trying to kiss and hug me.”  He’s already too cool for school.  He’s figured out (not sure who makes this call) that hot lunch is cool and bringing his own is not.

Makalah is a DEFINITE momma’s girl and we didn’t know how she’d do on her first day.  We were VERY proud when she handled day one of pre-school very well.  Below are some pictures from day one of pre-school.

Proud dad,

Jeff





How could you say no?

14 08 2008

This is from last Saturday when my mom and dad and I took all the kids to the park while Sabrina went to the spa for a spa day.  She’s had the gift certificate since Christmas and kept making appointments but had them canceled.  She finally got her chance to go with Terri.  I discovered that Jaydah LOVES the swing.  How could anyone say no to this face?





Little Duck Comes Home

27 06 2008

Hey Element Church.  I got back into town on Wednesday evening and have been busy getting prepared for Sunday.  I was so humbled to be on the attack team for Connections in Boise.  Honored that my friend would choose me to offer any kind of advice in church planting.  Here are my final thoughts on the weekend.  Stuff God taught me while we were teaching.

Billy from Soujourn Fellowship in Olathe, KS shared these things about balancing family and church and some general family issues.  He asked his family some questions about ministry life and here are some of their responses.  I think every pastors family faces some of this:

“What do you not like about being in a pastors family?”  1.  Expectations of others.  2.  Exclusion of others “Well you’re in a pastors family so you probably can’t do this.  3.  Being on a pedestal and always in a glass house.

Billy talked about giving approval to his kids in front of other people and how much that means to them.  He shared an illustration from Jesus’ baptism in a totally different take.  Something I never thought of.  When Jesus was baptized, the Father spoke from Heaven and said “This is my Son in whom I am well pleased!”  Typically we think of that being said for the people who were there or for the reader.  He brought up that if Jesus were, as we believe, FULLY human, he would have longed for His Father’s approval.  For Jesus to hear His dad say “I am well pleased” was monumental to his humanness.  I loved that.  Billy said “If Jesus needed it, so do our kids.”

Things the family wished they’d do better:  Say “No!” to things without having to have a reason.  Just because.

He then shared some thoughts from Andy Stanley and things Andy shared about the pastors home.

The real reason Andy says he worked too much and was at home too little was “I was not sure God could be trusted to build as big a church as I wanted Him to build.”  (WOW!)

“I’m willing for you to build as big a church as you can build in my 45 hours, and I will be satisfied with that.  But I promise you, I’m not going to cheat my family.”

“I was commanded to love my wife.  I was never commanded to build the church.”  Jesus says that HE will build the church.

“My observation is that men and women who love the church and don’t love their family have neither great churches nor great families.”  (BINGO)

“The Kingdom of God does not hinge on my ability to put more and more hours into it.  You have graciously invited me to be a very, very tiny part of it.  But at the end of the day, your will will be done, and the Church WILL be built.”

Speaking of family “Never violate the principles of God in order to gain or maintain the blessings of God.”

“The problem comes when we try to trade jobs with Jesus.”

Here are my thoughts on Andy’s thoughts cause I know some people will go to the extreme in their rebuttle of Him.  I believe that many times, we as pastors forget that it is NOT because of our effort that the church works, it is because of the power of the Holy Spirit.  With that said, I also believe in some sort of divine partnership that God wants me to give EVERYTHING that HE asks of me and not anyone else.  I need to do that while not neglecting my personal relationship with Him first, my family second and myself third.  Good stuff.

Little Duck Growing,

Jeff