As men, ESPECIALLY men in leadership or ministry, I think we struggle with this. Whether we are struggling with temptation. Struggling with a decision. Struggling with depression. Struggling with execution. We KNOW we need help, but we view asking for help as a sign of WEAKNESS, when it’s actually a sign of WISDOM! Moses experienced this in his life and it affected an ENTIRE nation hundreds of years later.
Numbers 10:29-32 29 One day Moses said to his brother-in-law, Hobab son of Reuel the Midianite, “We are on our way to the place the Lord promised us, for he said, ‘I will give it to you.’ Come with us and we will treat you well, for the Lord has promised wonderful blessings for Israel!” 30 But Hobab replied, “No, I will not go. I must return to my own land and family.” 31 “Please don’t leave us,” Moses pleaded. “You know the places in the wilderness where we should camp. Come, be our guide. 32 If you do, we’ll share with you all the blessings the Lord gives us.”
Moses was in a situation where he needed HELP! He needed DIRECTIONS…AND he asked for them. I know, a mind blowing thing for us men. He asked his brother in law Hobab, but Hobab said “NO!” Now, you might be thinking, “where in the world are you going with this Jeff? He asked for help and said ‘No’? What good does that do?” And that’s a GREAT question. I saw this for the FIRST time as I was reading through this portion of the Bible in my quiet time.
All the way in Judges, Moses’ decision to ask for help would change the direction and destiny of an entire nation. The Israelites were being oppressed by King Jabin and his army commander Sisera. Through the prophet Deborah, God calls out Barak to lead the nation of Israel to victory over Jabin. Barak, under the leadership of Deborah, goes to war, and God uses a woman named Jael, the wife of Heber the Kenite, to drive a tent peg through Sisera’s head, bringing victory to the Israelites. AMAZING HUH!??
I know. Not so amazing. Until you connect the dots.
Judges 4:11 11 Now HEBER THE KENITE (Jael’s husband), a descendant of Moses’ brother-in-lawHOBAB, had moved away from the other members of his tribe and pitched his tent by the oak of Zaanannim near Kedesh.
See that? Jael’s husband Heber was a descendant of Hobab who was living in that land. That means that while it APPEARS Hobab said “NO”, he must of went WITH Moses when he asked for help and guided his family to the promise land anyway. Because Moses was willing to ask for help YEARS before, God placed Hobab in the RIGHT place where his descendant would marry the RIGHT person, and put his tent in the EXACT spot it needed to be in order to be used to overthrow Sisera and the King when Israel cried out for help.
Asking for help is NOT a sign of weakness, it’s actually a sign of WISDOM. And you never know the effect it will have YEARS down the road.
Trying to ask when I need it,